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Anonymous said: I was told that I shouldn't wish bad on my rapist because then I'd be just like him. I wanted to scream and yell because I feel I have every right to feel this way. Everything is becoming more real that it actually happened. My anxiety is (1/2)

selfcareafterrape:

Is worse. I’ve been depressed for 8 years of my life and suffer from self harm I Dont know what to do anymore. I need help but I have no support or insurance. My parents are opposed to me getting help. I’m scared and lost. Any advice? Please. (2/2)

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Excuse my language, but fuck that shit.

The only thing that would make you ‘just like him’ is if you went out and raped someone.

Fuck people who think that wishing people who hurt us is as bad as them actually hurting people. 

So the bad news is when people in our lives don’t want us to get help, and especially when we don’t have insurance/would have issues paying- it can be harder to get help anyway.

The good news is there are free resources.

My general….. I need to make a post one day that’s just called ‘the SCaR way’ but the way I suggest people go about their healing journey is as follows:

Healing falls into three parts-

1. Processing

2. Symptom Management

3, Self Care.

I usually tell people to start with the last two. 3 is the easiest. and by self care I don’t mean ‘go take a bubble bath’ (though that could be part of it) I mean a lot more of the basic self care things. like working on sleep, eating, and healthy ways to express emotions. If you check out the masterlist- there’s a thing talking about all the different areas of self care. I’m a big fan of preventative self care vs. reactionary self care.

2. Symptom management. Take your symptoms. anything you think of a symptom. ‘Irritability’ ‘flashbacks’ ‘nightmares’ - list all of them. and then pick two.

and then research. If you look at the masterlist- there are some guides for some symptoms. Talk to other survivors. There are online resources- and even things at the public library (if you feel self conscious- tell yourself that you aren’t any different than your average psychology student. and you can even tell that to anyone else. or that you’re helping a friend.)

and then I want you to pick.. three methods. just three.

and try them. Give them an honest to goodness try. for a week.

Know no one thing is going to be a cure all- pay attention to anything that helps ‘at all’.

You’re going to want to keep notes of what works and what doesn’t and just… try three things to help those TWO symptoms.

If you just try to focus on everything all at once- nothing will help enough to be relevant. You have to narrow your focus. A lot of things WILL help most symptoms- but if you’re paying attention to everything.. yeah.

and then you’re going to rinse and repeat. Once you think you have those two symptoms under control- you can move on to others.

1. Processing.

Processing…. Processing… What do I have to say about processing.

it sucks? it’s worthwhile anyway? It gets worse before it gets better? which is why I say focus on the other two first so that you have the skills to handle it.

but processing can be telling your story (or writing it out. even if you don’t share it with anyone) it can be talking about various things. Processing is when we work through the things that it makes us feel. and through the memory.

and I just wanted to wrap this up again with ‘fuck anyone who thinks that wishing bad shit on our abusers makes us the bad guy’ it’s victim blaming, it’s naive, and it’s bullshit.

now I wouldn’t actually advise going out and doing anything (well anything illegal. if you want to report you can) just because of general legalities and because prison isn’t fun. but just wishing it?

betteroffredthandead:

venusflytrapvagina:

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naughtyornicechekov:

amandaonwriting:

Suggestions for changing paragraphs

Oh my FuckinDo you realize how annoying it is when you don’t switch paragraphs when a new character is speakingDo you realize how confusing it isI don’t care if they’re using one-word responses at each other, start a new damn paragraph. ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE MORE THAN ONE CHARACTER.

dear christ this.no more walls of text please. please.

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aideemoi

betteroffredthandead:

venusflytrapvagina:

fadeintocase:

naughtyornicechekov:

amandaonwriting:

Suggestions for changing paragraphs

Oh my Fuckin
Do you realize how annoying it is when you don’t switch paragraphs when a new character is speaking
Do you realize how confusing it is
I don’t care if they’re using one-word responses at each other, start a new damn paragraph.
ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE MORE THAN ONE CHARACTER.

dear christ this.
no more walls of text please. please.

u

aideemoi

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chocolatequeennk:

haliasjane:

inbetweenfictionandreality:

"I waited too long to read the sequel, and now I can’t even remember the characters."

                                                                                            A novel by me

"I read the whole series in less than two days, and now can’t separate the events of individual books" the thrilling sequel

"I’ve read so much fanfic for this series, I can’t remember what really happened in the books" the stunning conclusion

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mdt:

epistemologicalfallacy:

goats are literally Masters of Physics


The fourth dimension is not time.
It is goat.

mdt:

epistemologicalfallacy:

goats are literally Masters of Physics

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The fourth dimension is not time.

It is goat.

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rabbiting:

sailor moon, doing moon stuff with her moon swords

rabbiting:

sailor moon, doing moon stuff with her moon swords

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http://gallifreyglo.tumblr.com/post/100568982095/geejayeff-gallifreyglo-brydeswhale

gallifreyglo:

geejayeff:

gallifreyglo:

geejayeff:

gallifreyglo:

brydeswhale:

geejayeff:

gallifreyglo:

phoenixfloaz:

gallifreyglo:

I feel nothing for Hawley.  Like… nothing.

Same.

I feel like they’re trying to model him after Duke from the show Haven, but failing miserably.

I totally see the Duke comparison. A resourceful scoundrel who lives on a boat and makes eyes at the strong leading lady who is destined to be involved with a loyal and gorgeous someone else.

Honestly I never cared one way or the other about Duke. Team Nathan from first five minutes of the pilot. And I feel the same about Nick. Ichabbie all the way.

I dk if it’s the actor, or the craptastic writing of his character, but he’s kind of not very interesting.

brydeswhale — it’s just…. yawn.

geejayeff — Duke grew on me, but mostly because I kind of liked/knew Balfour before.

gallifreyglo I got to a place where I appreciated the role Duke plays. I really like Haven. I think they keep the story moving forward. But I was never the least bit interested in him getting his romance on. And it’s the same with Nick. Like maybe Hawley can get to a place where he becomes a reliable part of the Scooby Team. But romance of any kind…meh.

We coulda had Daniel Henney if they’d only listened to me… Le sigh.

geejayeff 

*Whispers* read my fic… 

geejayeff:

gallifreyglo:

What Katrina said happened…

What probably really happened

Ichabod:

Here’s another angle from the night in question…

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I think this explains the head wound…

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Katrina referring to the place Headless keeps her captive as “Home”

darlablovesichabbie:

geejayeff:

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you know ichabod gonna remember her sayin that too. cuz the look on his face was wtf you say?

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sixpenceee:

Neon blue lava pours from Indonesia’s Kawah Ijen Volcano. The reason it’s blue is because the mountain contains large amounts of pure sulfur, which emits an icy violet colors as it turns. It turns the rocky slopes into a hot, toxic environment. (Article) 

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